Getting unstuck by healing from the past
Individual Therapy for Women with Attachment Issues and Trauma
You have lived your whole life knowing something was a little off - but you never really put your finger on it.
Sure, your parents weren’t always the most reliable, but other people had it worse… right? I mean, everyone has shitty stories from the past about their parents and how they messed up, so what’s it doesn’t have to be a big deal - you should just move on. At least, that’s what you tell yourself - that it wasn’t all that bad and you should just get over it already.
Even as a kid, you never really felt seen and valued and loved in the way that you wanted to.
Sometimes, when you think about it, you just feel this pit deep down in your stomach that aches with the pain of wanting for something that you’ll never have.
You’ve tried to cover it up, ignore it, fix it, but when you really think about it - it’s always been there.
You’re scared of rehashing the past and bringing it all back up - you wish it would just go away, but it hasn’t. You're seeing the effects now - you can’t focus like you used to, you’re distant in your relationship, and you never really feel worthy of love. Sometimes, you hear your own thoughts and you wonder how you can be so mean to yourself.
You know you have unresolved issues.
Trauma maybe - even though that word feels like it gets thrown around too much these days.
You question if what you went through is even bad enough to talk about or if you’ve just seen too many Instagram reels and TikTok posts. Regardless, you’re coming to terms with the fact that it’s time to talk to someone about it to see if you can move past what you’ve gone through.
Imagine feeling whole and worthy and loved - not just from other people, but from yourself.
Imagine having a voice inside that was compassionate and kind and motivating (yes, there really are people that experience that.)
Think about what it would be like to just remember experiences from the past as things that just happened - and experiencing them as very far away from you now.
Consider a life where you would be able to create and keep healthy relationships with people who are reliable and loving without questioning if they will abandon you. Imagine feeling at peace and comfortable with who you are.
Whether or not you call your experience “trauma,” talk therapy and EMDR can help.
Oftentimes, the experiences that we have had can leave a lasting impression on us and it’s because we went through something that we didn’t understand and we couldn’t resolve at the time.
I used to think of “trauma” as a word reserved for a big, one time event but then I learned that it’s just an umbrella term for things that happened to us without our control or consent. The harder thing to understand is when it happens in relationships - especially with parents or attachment figures - because it’s just sort of the way that things have always been. It doesn’t mean you weren’t loved or that it was all bad.
Trauma simply means that we have a lasting experience that keeps us stuck (and can affect us negatively years later). So, it’s tough to know when something is considered “trauma” or not. At least, it’s tough when you’re figuring it out all on your own.
The best way for us to determine if you would be a good fit for trauma therapy is by scheduling a free consultation.
During this free, 20 minute phone call, we can talk about your unique experiences and make an action plan from there.