Online Therapy for Millennial Women in Tennessee
Slowing down doesn’t have to be so hard.
Hey, I’m Anne Marie Schoenherr (she/her)
“Shay-ner,” if you’re wondering
I help overworked women slow down, be present, and stop beating themselves up (without everything falling apart in the process).
Being the best can feel really great, until it doesn’t. Sometimes everything is hard and you can’t figure out if you should push yourself (and probably burn out) or take a rest (and probably feel guilty).
You grew up where life was pretty chaotic and deep down you feel like you have to keep your self stressed out to stay sane. You’re tired of holding it together (or at least looking like it) while being completely overwhelmed. You are ready to take care of yourself but you have no idea where to start.
My Approach
We all want to feel respected and understood, but we also all need
a little help sometimes.
I approach therapy with a balance of collaboration and guidance - I mean, you are the expert on YOU and if you could figure this out 100% on your own, you wouldn’t really need me. So, your role is to bring in your authentic self - as terrifying and vulnerable as that may feel - and to be open to the deep work that is often necessary for meaningful change.
My role, on the other hand, is to help cut through the noise and offer interventions and solutions that are hand-picked for you. Since every person I work with is unique, I often will integrate several different types of theories, based on what works for your brain and our dynamic. This means that our work together is highly relational, collaborative, and customized - requiring us to both be active participants in our connection and the change that you’re wanting to see in your life. It’s important to me that you not only experience change, but understand how it happened, so that you can leave feeling empowered and ready to take on future issues.
In order to keep transparency, we create and review goals together, decide on our plan of action, and continually discuss how the pace feels for you.
It is important to me that we build on solutions that have already worked for you and try new things without the expectation of immediate success (there are actually no A+ grades or gold stars in therapy…. just showing up is hard enough). We don’t just talk about how therapy is affecting you, but also how it’s impacting your other systems (friends, family, work) and how our relationship is going because this is, afterall, supposed to help model healthy relationships outside of session.
My goal is to have you feeling better faster but to not skip out on any of the important parts of existing patterns or potential solutions.
This often requires our work to be depth-oriented (no skimming the surface and trying out band-aid solutions) and usually longer-term basis (weekly therapy for 6 months - 2 years+). This isn’t for everyone, but it may be for you if you are wanting to resolve long-standing trauma, heal attachment injuries (ex. childhood issues with your parents), or develop healthy relational habits that take awhile to feel natural.
It can feel exciting or daunting to commit to something, but this work is truly an investment in your future self and I don’t want us to rush through. Remember, if these are problems that you’ve had for a long time, they probably won’t go away in a few quick sessions. That said, this isn’t a subscription service and you always have the right to stop when you have decided that we’ve done enough. To keep an eye on this, we will have regular and ongoing conversations about your goals, progress, and desire to keep moving forward, so that you always are in control of your own participation in therapy.
My Values
I believe in the possibility of change, the power of vulnerable connection, and the right to autonomy.
I know that you are worthy of a safe relationship, in which you can learn how to trust yourself, advocate for your needs, and feel empowered to make changes. So, I pay special attention to how my boundaries and our relationship can impact you. And, I believe in the importance of openness and authenticity, because we spend enough time trying to fit in or cover up who we really are. None of that here. I continuously strive to be inclusive, affirming, and celebratory while you share and explore your unique values, identity, and culture regardless of your sexual orientation/identity, (non)religious beliefs, race, sex/gender, political affiliations, or other specifics.
Modalities
I often blend several approaches in our work together to help you understand patterns, break through stuck points, and brainstorm solutions. Really, what is most important to me is that we talk in ways that make sense for you and meet the goals you want to achieve. I have a few go-to theories listed below:
EMDR (Eye Movement, Desensitization, and Reprocessing)
Solution Focused Therapy
IFS-Informed Therapy (Internal Family Systems / Parts Work)
Transgenerational and Contextual Therapy
Collaborative Therapy
Professional Qualifications, Affiliations, and Education
Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, #1507, Board for Licensed Professional Counselors, Licensed Marital and Family Therapists and Licensed Clinical Pastoral Therapists
Clinical Fellow, American Association for Marriage and Family Therapists
Master of Science Degree, Child Development and Family Studies with a Specialization in Marriage and Family Therapy, Purdue University Northwest (Calumet), Hammond, IN
Bachelor of Arts Degree, Human Development and Family Studies, Central Michigan University, Mt. Pleasant, MI
EMDR Trained, EMDRIA
I know that if you’re not familiar with the various types of therapists and counselors, the letters at the end of a name don’t really mean much.
So if that’s the case for you, Marriage and Family Therapist (MFT) means that I am someone who approaches each person as a part of a larger system. That means that we aren’t just looking at who you are, but how you came to be through the systems in which you were raised (think, your parents, extended family, religious community, school system, greater local community, and beyond). It also means that whenever we are treating a problem or coming up with a solution, we are taking into consideration all of the interconnected systems that you currently navigate. In other words, how does your problem or the potential solution affect you, your partner, your family, your work, etc. This varies a little from other types of therapies that may only focus on symptom relief and less on your ability to sustain change in the long run.
In order to earn my degree, my graduate studies were tremendously rigorous, far exceeding the basic standards for national accreditation. My program required that we demonstrate extensive knowledge in theory, participate in hundreds of hours of supervision (both recorded and live - that means that professors and other therapists would watch behind a two-way mirror), and complete clinical hours outside of the school for real-world experience.
By now, you’ve scrolled through enough websites to know what you need.
Stop debating and schedule your free 20-minute phone consultation, today, to see if we’re a fit.